My One Time Being Fooled

Her name was Eve. We were chatting online and she seemed so normal; about my age, very easy-going and ready to enjoy a night out.

I arrive at a more than expensive place and see what I thought was this girl's mother. No, it was her. I sat down and told the waiter to wait. I asked her why she didn't tell me how old she was. Eve started getting nervous. She said, "I just flirt with men so they will take me out to dinner. Besides, I have a two-for-one coupon."

I don't enjoy getting scammed. That ended with me getting up and leaving. I did meet another girl under similar circumstances who admitted she lied about her weight. She was over 300 pounds and nasty looking. I told her I wasn't happy, but she was so funny, I agreed to have lunch with her and it was a memorable experience. Still, it's just so much better when they tell the truth up front.

Nice Guys Win in the End

I've seen lots of online discussion about the "nice guy" problem. While it's true that there are some guys who are so painfully nice that they cannot even get dates, there are a lot of decent guys who treat women with respect, who never meet women interested in a relationship, or even just a few days of sex.

These are the guys who work hard and try to do the right thing. They are always upstaged by the slick players and "life of the party" types. Women talk about these SFL (save for later) guys as if they are so cute in their cluelessness. These guys rarely have a chance with the really hot girls. Most of the time, the hot girls are humping away on the players, getting used and hurt, getting a sexually transmitted disease and basically being shit on by the players and liars.

The discussion about this always ends with a pep talk to the "nice guys". The women who are still fucking their way through the players and married cheaters tell the nice guys not to give up hope, that someday, something will happen for them and some girl will really like them.

The basic message is for you decent guys to "hang in there" so after she has sexually serviced all the guys who don't deserve her, you can take care of her and pay her bills, but don't expect much in the way of love or sex, she gave all the best of herself to guys who couldn't care less about her. Don't ever commit to a woman like this. I've dated these types, even lived with them, but when they press for commitment, I leave. They don't deserve someone who will be good to them if they've spent a lifetime getting hurt and betrayed.

It's not a matter of them making bad choices, they choose what they really want. They don't want you if you are a nice guy, they want the scumbags, so treat them that way. Have sex with them, then disappear after a few weeks. If you stick around and be kind to them, they won't know how to handle it.

Nice guys don't win in the end. They are the ones left over after the women have made many years of the worst possible choices. You are only there to help soothe her emotions - and heal her broken heart. You get almost nothing in return. She's given her best years to others, and her heart still beats for some guy who cheated on her or beat her up. That's the reality, nice guy, get used to it.

I've Decided to Do It

I'm moving in with a girlfriend simply because she is wealthy. I don't really love her, but I do enjoy her company. She's wealthy beyond belief and I think it might be a good idea to land there for a while until I get my income back up over six figures.

Most of the time I wouldn't recommend doing this, as a lot of women become very controlling and possessive and want to dictate what you do every day. It can become a major hassle and there are not a lot of people who will respect you. The sex? I don't know, it can seem like a chore, but everything else is good. I wonder if I should complete my novel?

It is based on my years of being a con-artist, and I am very prolific writer if not a very good one. It could be interesting...

Anyway, just random posts for a while. Have to pay some bills. Keep the faith.

The Texter... And Other News

I have an old hookup that won't take me off her text messenger list. For some reason, my Yahoo messenger won't allow me to block her out, so I guess I'm stuck with her daily texts for now. She keeps sending me messages about how she never had an orgasm until me, which I don't believe, just thinking she wants to get together again.

In other news, the texter was irritating me until another text popped in from Emma, a great hookup from a few months ago. She was hurt that I didn't call her back and has been waiting for me to call. So, I called, and we are booked for dinner tonight.

I really like her, but I think I'm getting into a situation where she wants to be with me in a relationship, but I'm just not doing that now. Too many people are still just doing the hookup thing for me to take any woman seriously.

Oh well, that's it for now. Have a good weekend.

Yes, OK, I Recommend Condoms

Most of my six readers give me a hard time about my crazy single life. I admit I'm just having fun with women, and the majority of them know I'm not serious about ever wanting a relationship. I'm not being serious at all. Still, I have to recommend using protection. I've never had an STD and I'm not about to expose myself to one. Use condoms and try to get to understand how trashy or how clean your partners are. Most people are nasty, so be careful.

I only had one scare with no-condom sex. I was with this Jewish girl and woke up the next day with a big knot right next to my dick. I was so angry. I thought she had given me herpes. It was a small town and I told everyone I knew that XXXXX had given me herpes. Well, she hadn't. The doctor looked at it and told me it was a spider bite. I'd never been so relieved in my life.

Close call, I know... Wear condoms, it can save you a lot of headaches.

The Wrong Kind of Girl

Hailey is the kind of girl you wish there were millions of when you are young. I met Hailey on an online service - you know the kind where you are too lazy to get out and meet people so you go online.. Yep, that's what I did.

Anyway, so I meet Hailey for a late date after dinner and we just split a bottle of wine and talk. She's short and stocky but with great tits and a perfectly formed butt. We must have had two glasses of wine when we start kissing. We are watching Death Sentence with Kevin Bacon, and I'm into the movie...but, but, okay - so we go back to the bedroom and all her clothes are off very quickly. I think to put on a condom, she was trashy and we had the best sex I can remember. She was so into it, and got off just watching me get off underneath her. Her legs were so short she had to sort of squat over me and spin on top of me. It was almost too intense - like the kind of sex you have when you have a headache afterwards.

She's texted me about five times today so I think I'll see her again this weekend. It was fun, but I think I need to back away from this one pretty quickly...or maybe not.

Nice Guys Beware!!

I've learned in the dating world that if you are a nice guy type; meaning not a cheater, player or liar, then you have your own set of problems. My dating plan is just to have fun. I've been in a traditional marriage and didn't cheat. I was honest and cooperative and realized I married someone who only cared about money and being able to stop working immediately.

If you treat women with respect and be honest with them, they will very often "play" you. They will let rotten guys get away with everything. They will forgive the cheating, the emotional abuse, even physical abuse. But as a "nice guy" you can't slip up one time. If you have to suddenly cancel a date for business reasons, she will be furious, but she will forgive the jerk for cheating. If you wear the wrong suit to her sister's wedding, she will hate you, but she'll forgive the jerk for giving her a black eye.

Remember also that she had sex with Mr. Jackass on the second date, and you had to do the stupid courtship thing for week after week.

Don't let her do this to you. If you aren't having sex by the 3rd or 4th date, dump her. If she uses emotion to manipulate you, and you find yourself going to parties you hate, or not able to work as much because of her demands on your time, you might want to move on to a new woman, or even take a break for a while.

Of course, if you act like a player, and behave in a way that seems like you just don't care, she will respect you a whole lot more. Just be careful. If she has learned to be in relationships with assholes, she plays hardball. Nice guys get fucked over when battle-hardened women are involved.