As my readers know, I was married for a great number of years, and had a very traditional marriage. I have a daughter from that marriage who is very intelligent and mild mannered. We get along as well as two grown adults. She is very perceptive and intelligent and I never have to call her out on any behavior.
When I've dated women with children of a similar age, the children are always horribly behaved. They are very nearly depraved. They tell lies, they make false accusations against men they don't want their mothers dating, and the end result is always destructive. I've had discussions with such women, but have only slipped up and started sleeping with one just once. Once was all I needed. When the daughter was introduced to me, the father suddenly flipped out and went to the police to issue an amber alert. The police came to my house and interviewed me. Nothing happened, of course, but I learned the hard way that dating a woman with a child is dangerous.
My daughter asked what all the fuss was about. I explained to her that lots of people cannot manage their own lives, and so police and social workers are often called in to sort out the mess. I haven't seen that woman again, and she was upset that I broke things off, but sometimes people have to face the reality that their children probably need to be given up - if they are so badly behaved that everyone's life goes "on hold" until they grow up and go away.
Do not date anyone with a child, unless the child lives with the father most of the time. Wait, that's not even a safe plan - just don't date anyone with children unless they are grown up and have moved on.
When I've dated women with children of a similar age, the children are always horribly behaved. They are very nearly depraved. They tell lies, they make false accusations against men they don't want their mothers dating, and the end result is always destructive. I've had discussions with such women, but have only slipped up and started sleeping with one just once. Once was all I needed. When the daughter was introduced to me, the father suddenly flipped out and went to the police to issue an amber alert. The police came to my house and interviewed me. Nothing happened, of course, but I learned the hard way that dating a woman with a child is dangerous.
My daughter asked what all the fuss was about. I explained to her that lots of people cannot manage their own lives, and so police and social workers are often called in to sort out the mess. I haven't seen that woman again, and she was upset that I broke things off, but sometimes people have to face the reality that their children probably need to be given up - if they are so badly behaved that everyone's life goes "on hold" until they grow up and go away.
Do not date anyone with a child, unless the child lives with the father most of the time. Wait, that's not even a safe plan - just don't date anyone with children unless they are grown up and have moved on.
